• distal@lemmy.ml
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    7 days ago

    demeaning by implying that it’s possible to survive on a single income, albeit minimally, and that anyone doing more is choosing that.

    However, you can’t just say they’re implying this or that. This is guesswork with respect to the commentator; You are putting words in their mouth.

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      7 days ago

      Then don’t assume I am being arrogant! My original question was an honest one. How does them stating they get by better in this situation help someone that doesn’t? You are assuming my tone.

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        7 days ago

        [earlier] Glad you can afford housing and food on one paycheck!

        I don’t need to assume your tone. Just simply assuming things like being able to afford things when someone is not (as they have stated in their first reply to you) is arrogant, albeit unintentionally. How do you think this reads to the other person? Personally, I would feel like as if someone punched me in the face. To then say that the other party simply misunderstood you after they rightfully corrected you, is only fuel to that fact, or will seen as such.

        How does them stating they get by better in this situation help someone that doesn’t?

        Does them stating that bar people from being helped, are they necessarily doing better than people working two jobs? I would say the former is not an issue, i.e. it doesn’t demean the struggles of someone with two jobs. With the latter it’s hard to make any good conclusions about concretely. They didn’t say that they are doing better, therefore the people dealing with two or more jobs jobs should whine less.

        Edit: phrasing/clarification

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          6 days ago

          You’re ignorning their initial statement to prove your point. Your history shows you love to do this. Have a good day.

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            6 days ago

            I am not ignoring their initial statement, in fact I acknowledge this. In fact I am being very rigorous. Don’t accuse me of falsehoods.