I helped a parent with this years ago; maybe the same advice can help you:
Go to the mobile store and ask them for the cheapest phone they can sell you. They’ll show you something on the floor, and then tell them no. The absolute cheapest they can sell you. Like, a pile of something in the back that’s about to get thrown out, but it’s still on the inventory. Ask them to ask the manager what’s the lowest price they can offer if you buy 10 or more of them. (The parent I spoke to got 10 phones for $30)
Then, explain to your daughter that you’re giving her a new responsibility, and that responsibilities are easier to remember when they have value. You’re going to give her a cell phone, and she’s not allowed to show it to her friends, she can only use it to call you or approved contacts and emergency services. The cell phone has to come home every day, and it’ll be checked that it’s charged (to get her in the habit of charging it herself), working, and hasn’t made any unexpected calls.
The value assigned to this will be whatever her favorite hobby/activity is. Computer time, games, puzzles, coloring, whatever. Let her know that you realize this is a big deal, and that she won’t be in trouble as long as she’s honest about the phone. If she doesn’t pass the daily check, she won’t be grounded and can do literally anything else, but not that one activity. Explain that this is you helping her learn responsibility, not a way to punish her.
I gave this advice nearly a decade ago, so prices and opportunities may have changed, and in case it needs to be said, my unsolicited advice isn’t meant to make you feel like you’re being judged as a parent. This is just in case you’ve considered the idea, but couldn’t think of a way to increase the chances of success.
All jokes aside she’s not getting a physical cell phone - even a flip phone - for a few more years.
I appreciate the comment, but she’s 7. She has a “landline” phone (local PBX, explicit allows for friends whose parents ive talked to), she isn’t ready for something mobile. They aren’t even allowed into elementary school with cell phones, but the accessory style devices (watches) are.
Middle school? Yes, thats when this conversation will happen.
I gave that advice to a parent at a middle school where I worked, so yeah. If a parent had asked me how to ensure that their 7 year-old doesn’t lose a cell phone, I’d tell them that not giving a cell phone to a 7 year-old is a really good place to start.
I helped a parent with this years ago; maybe the same advice can help you:
Go to the mobile store and ask them for the cheapest phone they can sell you. They’ll show you something on the floor, and then tell them no. The absolute cheapest they can sell you. Like, a pile of something in the back that’s about to get thrown out, but it’s still on the inventory. Ask them to ask the manager what’s the lowest price they can offer if you buy 10 or more of them. (The parent I spoke to got 10 phones for $30)
Then, explain to your daughter that you’re giving her a new responsibility, and that responsibilities are easier to remember when they have value. You’re going to give her a cell phone, and she’s not allowed to show it to her friends, she can only use it to call you or approved contacts and emergency services. The cell phone has to come home every day, and it’ll be checked that it’s charged (to get her in the habit of charging it herself), working, and hasn’t made any unexpected calls.
The value assigned to this will be whatever her favorite hobby/activity is. Computer time, games, puzzles, coloring, whatever. Let her know that you realize this is a big deal, and that she won’t be in trouble as long as she’s honest about the phone. If she doesn’t pass the daily check, she won’t be grounded and can do literally anything else, but not that one activity. Explain that this is you helping her learn responsibility, not a way to punish her.
I gave this advice nearly a decade ago, so prices and opportunities may have changed, and in case it needs to be said, my unsolicited advice isn’t meant to make you feel like you’re being judged as a parent. This is just in case you’ve considered the idea, but couldn’t think of a way to increase the chances of success.
All jokes aside she’s not getting a physical cell phone - even a flip phone - for a few more years.
I appreciate the comment, but she’s 7. She has a “landline” phone (local PBX, explicit allows for friends whose parents ive talked to), she isn’t ready for something mobile. They aren’t even allowed into elementary school with cell phones, but the accessory style devices (watches) are.
Middle school? Yes, thats when this conversation will happen.
I gave that advice to a parent at a middle school where I worked, so yeah. If a parent had asked me how to ensure that their 7 year-old doesn’t lose a cell phone, I’d tell them that not giving a cell phone to a 7 year-old is a really good place to start.
Thus the root of the problem - an option for younger that isn’t also a privacy nightmare.